15 Ways to Make Your Hubby Feel Like a King

There are plenty of ways to make our husbands feel loved and cherished. Here's a quick list of 15 things you can consider doing to let your sweetie know just how much he means to you.

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For certain men, food is key. Make a meal that your husband loves. What’s that special dish that really satisfies him? You know the one that he always raves about. Cook it for him. Save and offer him the big piece of chicken, biggest portion, or first dibs on the last piece of cheesecake. Don’t let the kids drink all of his favorite soda or devour his favorite chips. Be sure that your grocery list has some of his favorites on it.

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Ask his opinion about important decisions, current affairs, and world events. It means a great deal to a man when the woman he loves cares about what he thinks.

3

Wait up for him on those late nights. Make his favorite sandwich or grilled cheese or just be up to talk a little about the day’s events.

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Leave a little handwritten love note on the bathroom mirror or slip it into his wallet. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean every moment of sweet-little-nothings has flown out the window.

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Physical affection is vital for men. Kiss him just because. Grab his hand while you’re driving or walking together. Put your arm around his shoulder. Snuggle up to him first. When we initiate affection, our men really feel wanted.

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On a regular basis, tell him how grateful you are to have him in your life. Never take for granted that he already knows.

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Send him an “I love you” text message. Let him know that you’re thinking of him when the two of you are apart.

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Run a bubble bath for him when you know he has had a long, trying day.

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Take an interest in his passion. Watch that ballgame with him. If bowling is his thing, tag along and try your best to rack up some strikes.

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Go where he wants to go. Whether it’s a matter of restaurant, vacation, or sporting goods store, make his choice THE go-to choice.

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Stand by your man. Support him in situations that come up with your family. Be on his side.

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Even if it’s just in a conversation, express some passion about what matters to him. If you understand what he’s feeling, make sure he knows that he’s not alone.

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In all of our 25 years together, my husband has given me plenty of flowers and balloons. One day it dawned on me. Maybe my husband would like flowers too. I stood in the Kroger floral department for at least fifteen minutes, trying to decide between vibrant pastel daisies and beautiful roses. When I arrived home with deep-red roses for him, the look of surprise on his face was priceless. Yeah, a few guys poked fun of him on Facebook for getting flowers from a girl, but it was definitely a hit for our memory book.

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Share your dreams with him and ask him about his. Work together to achieve the dreams and goals the two of you have.

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Always remember to ask your husband, “Do you need me to get something for you? How can I help you? What can I do for you?”

Constant love, care, and consideration will go a long way in a marriage. When both people are always thinking about the other person, the union thrives, issues are promptly addressed, and each day is sweeter than the day before.

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Be a Blessing Every Day

As followers of Christ, we are called to be a blessing every day.  In our hearts we are royally crowned, designed to walk with character and dignity, producing harvest that makes the Lord proud.

We were created to love God with all we do, whether it’s cooking breakfast, making the bed or finding a parking space at the mall.  Whatever you do, do it well.  Each minute we breathe, we should show up and give our best effort.  Focused on giving all He said to give, there are many ways we can be a blessing every day.    

If your family had to give you a report card, what would your grade be?  Are you anticipating the needs of those in your family and making the load lighter for someone else if and when you are able?  Are you seeing the best in your family and building them up? Let’s make sure we’re not just screaming “what about me” all the time.

Genuine support is a rare find these days.  Let’s go the extra mile, even when we don’t feel up to it.  Jesus, an expert builder, wants us to build in the lives of others. Someone somewhere can benefit from what you have to offer.  Make optimism and providing answers be your calling card. Help others whenever you can.  Put forth your best effort to work well with others.

Kindness makes you beautiful.  Sow seeds of kindness, joy and love.  Realize that you may be the only one reaching out to someone.  So, keep encouraging even when others don’t.  Call people and see how they’re doing.  Check on friends you haven’t heard from in a while.  Tell someone you love them every day.  Any of us who have ever been thirsty for encouragement should appreciate the value in offering uplifting words to the people in our lives.  Sometimes a person just needs a little inspiration or a different thought to get them propelled in the right direction.  So, seize each opportunity to give away the grace God gives to us.

Giving to another person takes nothing away from us.  We truly help ourselves by blessing and supporting others.  Be a shoulder to cry on or a listening ear. Let others know that you understand what they’re going through. My grandmother Mary used to say “the person you help won’t always be the one to help you when you’re in need.”  Remember that the Lord will always make a way for you.  Those who give water will get water.  So, invest in yourself by investing in others.

Have you encouraged someone today? Think of blessing others as your mission.  Take a zest for life with you wherever you go.  Yell out and tell someone “you look pretty today,” which happens to be something my mother does often.  Girlfriends pray for one another often and ask the Lord to give the ladies in your life strength and guidance for whatever they’re facing.  Pray for the people in your life and hold someone’s hand just to let them know they are not alone.  Offer solutions and help others achieve their goals.  Share your gifts, knowledge and lessons acquired along the way.  Congratulate, compliment and cheer for others.  Be happy when others do well. The success of others is not your failure.

Let’s love our neighbors, even when their beliefs are different than ours.  Love and embrace others even when you don’t agree with their lifestyle.  Let the ears of your heart perk when you realize you are able and blessed enough to meet the immediate need of someone else.  Send out positive vibrations.  Let your joy, happiness and positivity be a good contagion.  We can all do good things.  The Lord, King of creation, has a specific plan for you.  Open your heart and allow Him to show you exactly how you can be the greatest blessing. 

“Lord, help us to be powerful prayer warriors.  We’re eager to be a part of your will being done on earth as it is in heaven. Please keep blessing us, so that we can be a blessing to your kingdom.”

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You Really Do Deserve Me

You Really Do Deserve Me is available on Amazon now!

"You Really Do Deserve Me" explores just a few of the qualities of a Super Wife, some things we can all try to have more peace in our marriages, and little ways wives can support and complement their husbands. 

Dictionary.com defines complement this way: “something that completes or makes perfect.” That beautiful definition succinctly fits a Super wife to a T. 

A Super wife is queen of motivation in her home. Her grace, strength, insight, comfort, resolve during a storm, brilliance, and even her joy make up a very unique skill-set that any man would be blessed to have. A Super Wife faces every challenge with optimism and strives to handle day-to-day circumstances with grace, strength, and humor. 

This quick little read offers 52 affirmations and 6 Bonuses including: 

* How I Saved My Marriage 
* Who Told You No? 
* A Mother's Work 
* Room for What Inspires You 
* Beautiful Smile Girl and 
* A New Beginning 

Tondeleya Allen, author of "The Blessed Woman Endeavor," believes every wife has the power to complement her husband and inspire him to be a better man.

How I Saved My Marriage

Divorce is a difficult prospect.  Actually staring down the barrel of an impending divorce is terrifying.  So many thoughts plague your mind.  The uncertainty, the despair, and the pain can overtake you and leave you in a state of emotional paralysis.  “How did we get here?  Is this our only option? Once upon a time, we were really good.  We did love each other, right?  Yes, we still love each other.  Why can’t we make this work? This place though is just too hard and neither of us knows how to fix what’s wrong. I’m just tired of fighting.  I’m sick of trying.  I’m tired of being in pain.  I just want to start over. I need peace. Obviously, we weren’t meant to last forever.”

Early on in our marriage, before we even had our first child, we had taken one another through so much.  We married long before we should have.  Young and naïve, we had all the wrong ideas about how to make marriage work for both of us.  And any good ideas we may have had, we weren’t sure about how to properly implement those ideas.  After several crazy years, full of love, mistakes, struggle, and blame, our marriage was over.  We just didn’t like or trust each other much.  So, what’s the point of forcing it?  The divorce papers had been signed by me.  The only thing that was left was to mail them to my husband to get his signature.

I’m so glad that the Lord had other plans for us.  He touched our hearts and made us believe for just a minute (at the same time) that there was some way to salvage– to restore our marriage.  Over time, a great deal of time, He brought us back from the brink of divorce.  It was not easy. It was not overnight. There was no quick-fix. Getting back “on track” was probably one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done.   

All those years ago though, at just 24 years old, I knew it was over.  I knew that there was just no way to put the pieces back together.  No one alive could’ve told me that there was any hope for us.  No one could have told me that there were steps that we could take, if we were both willing to try and to remain dedicated to one another.  Sadly, there was no one around to encourage me, to speak blessings over my marriage, or to lead me to the Lord for guidance.

Well, with God’s grace, we made it through that storm.  I saved my marriage by believing that God could restore us, despite all the awful pain and trauma.  I saved my marriage by ignoring popular opinion that said, “Yeah, just let it go.  You've gone as far as you can. It wasn’t meant to be.”  I saved my marriage by asking, “Lord, what should I do now?”  I saved my marriage by having faith that God’s promises are true and that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. 

We have been tested by fire.  Today, we’re stronger than ever.  We hold on tighter to one another in the storms. Is it always easy?  No, but it’s worth it.  Are we perfect? No.  Is our marriage perfect?  Of course not.  We do, however, share deep love and respect for one another.  We enjoy laughing, talking, and being silly together. Now, we realize that every argument or disagreement isn’t fatal.  Now, I know how important it is to let love dictate my response to my husband and to any difficulty we face.  Lord, thank you for saving my marriage.

Despite the 50% US divorce rate, there are couples who have made it back from the brink of divorce.  There are other couples whose marriages have been saved.   If you're willing to try, there are steps to work toward reconciliation.  Below are a few interesting stories/articles that I hope will inspire anyone who believes that there is no way that their marriage can be saved. 

“How I Saved My Marriage” by Richard Paul Evans http://new.www.huffingtonpost.com/richard-paul-evans/how-i-saved-my-marriage_b_6958222.html

“The List That Saved My Marriage” by Becky Zerbe http://www.todayschristianwoman.com/articles/2008/september/list-that-saved-my-marriage.html

“7 Steps to Fix a Broken Marriage on the Brink of Divorce” by Dr. David B. Hawkins http://www.crosswalk.com/family/marriage/doctor-david/7-ways-to-save-a-marriage-on-the-brink-of-divorce-11604471.html

“Unexpected Ways That Only You Can Save Your Marriage “as told by Leigh Newman”

http://www.oprah.com/shiftyourlife/unexpected-ways-that-only-you-can-save-your-marriage

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My book, You Really Do Deserve Me is available on Amazon.

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Read an excerpt from "I Am Enough"

"You belong to the Lord.  His faithful hand rests on you.  Your portion of eternal love is set.  Always know your worth.  You are a complete, content and confident conqueror.   You’re a survivor.  The championship ring has already been won.  Your past trials are now victories under your belt.  His staff of beauty and favor remains intact regarding you.  In Christ, you have no fear.  It’s the enemy who should be somewhere afraid and trembling.  You know who you are and what belongs to you.  You can really start living when you know your worth in Christ.

Never a fan of the convincing game, you refuse to waste a minute trying to convert anyone into a believer.  You’ve discovered that fitting in neither works nor lasts.  The world is way too fickle.  You see yourself as the Lord sees you and the picture is amazing.  You refuse to let others ask you to take an emotional seat at the back of the bus.

The world screams, “Don’t love yourself.  Compare yourself.  Doubt yourself.   Subdue yourself.  Be someone else.  Just sit down and let someone else.”  The world wants you to feel that you need society’s stamp of approval.  The world wants you to buy into its standard of beauty.  The world wants you to beg to be loved.

I have some good news for you.  Your beauty is not everyone else’s beauty.  The Lord, a magnificent artist, must love variety.  Your uniqueness.  Your heart.  Your eyes.  Your smile.  Your ideas.  Your creativity.  What a gift you are to the world.  Romance, nurture and cherish yourself.  Go right ahead and love yourself.   When you love yourself just as you are, the right people will love you too."

My Red Plaid Heart Textile Necklace

Part of my new collection, this one-of-a-kind textile necklace is fun, lively, expressive, imperfect, eclectic, unconventional, genuine and simple, yet brave.  This Tondeleya Allen original is for you!

* Coil, comprised of new cotton fabric, accented with beads, sewn on by hand, a salvaged button, a #-sign charm and a new red heart-shaped rabies vaccine tag.  Don't worry.  None of our furry friends have ever worn this.

* Colors: red, black, blue, yellow, green

* Materials: fabric, thread, beads, button, charm, grosgrain ribbon

* Measures about 27" long from end to end (not including the ribbon)

*hand-stitching, hand-beaded

* closes at nape with grosgrain ribbon

* each tie measures approximately 12" - 13" long

* Proudly made here in the USA, never mass-produced

* Whenever possible, to add more charm and character, I use vintage fabrics, buttons & other accents & include recycled/re-purposed elements. 

* Due to the length of the necklace, it may be shipped folded or coiled/wrapped in bubble wrap. Thanks for understanding!

* To ensure this item will last, spot cleaning is recommended. Please do not shower, swim or bathe while wearing.  Due to handcrafting, no two items are ever alike.  Please expect variation in color, stitching and patterns.

* Fabric, vintage buttons and colors speak to me, excite me, and shout of creative possibilities.  Even the smallest bits and pieces of exquisite fabrics are cherished and nestled away, where they wait to become an integral part of just the right project.   

* Hours of love and attention to detail went into this wearable art.  

I loved making this necklace and I hope it speaks to you and your individuality. I hope you'll be proud to call it your own.  Perhaps this vibrant piece can become one of your favorites.