4 Reasons to Buy My New Book Now

4 Bonuses at the back of Honey in My Tea

1.  Open Letter to a Nostalgic Cheating Husband

2. What You Deserve (excerpt from The Blessed Woman Endeavor)

3. A Queen's Portion (excerpt from You Inspire Me) and

4. Leya's Yummy Pizza Dough Recipe (used by Erin in the book)

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Erin Goodchild loves babies- everyone's babies. Erin has known since she was a little girl that she was born to be a mother. Life as a photographer and doting aunt assures that her life is full of children. Though, after thirteen years of marriage without a child of her own, she's teetering on the brink of insanity and brushing up against the point-of-no-return. Wanting just one little baby seems like such a simple desire, right?

Well, toss in medical issues, heartbreaks bigger than the ocean, and a husband who refuses to "cooperate" and you're in for an interesting roller coaster ride. Throw in Erin's wild, over-the-top family and friends, for a Southern journey that will leave you speechless, laughing, or smiling way down deep inside.

Desperate to make her dream of motherhood come true, there's no telling how far Erin will go. Can faith, patience, and love sustain her? Will she survive when the love she has for someone else collides with the love she has for herself?

Big-hearted and honest, Honey in My Tea explores different phases and colors of love, relationship, and family. Honey in My Tea shows us how confidence, bravery, and a new direction can help us learn who we really are and reveal inner strength we weren't certain we had.

An Open Letter to a Nostalgic Cheating Husband

Here's an excerpt from a piece I wrote called

"An Open Letter to a Nostalgic Cheating Husband."

"Don’t tell me what she did for you or how perfect she made you feel, how she stroked your ego, making you think her love was real. In the eight months you were together, I bet she never prayed for you.  I bet she never got on her knees in this crazy world and asked the Lord in heaven to save you.  I bet she didn’t stay when fun took flight like golden-winged warblers and the storms arrived, promising to devour everything in sight.  I bet she never gave birth to the greatest blessings of your life.  Was it her?  No, it’s me who tells your children to show you respect and love for your sacrifice..."

You can read the entire letter (a bonus) at the end of my novel Honey in My Tea, now available on Amazon.

7 Things to Say to Your Spouse When Life is Not Perfect

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The Blessed Woman Endeavor is also on Amazon! 

15 Ways to Make Your Hubby Feel Like a King

There are plenty of ways to make our husbands feel loved and cherished. Here's a quick list of 15 things you can consider doing to let your sweetie know just how much he means to you.

1

For certain men, food is key. Make a meal that your husband loves. What’s that special dish that really satisfies him? You know the one that he always raves about. Cook it for him. Save and offer him the big piece of chicken, biggest portion, or first dibs on the last piece of cheesecake. Don’t let the kids drink all of his favorite soda or devour his favorite chips. Be sure that your grocery list has some of his favorites on it.

2

Ask his opinion about important decisions, current affairs, and world events. It means a great deal to a man when the woman he loves cares about what he thinks.

3

Wait up for him on those late nights. Make his favorite sandwich or grilled cheese or just be up to talk a little about the day’s events.

4

Leave a little handwritten love note on the bathroom mirror or slip it into his wallet. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean every moment of sweet-little-nothings has flown out the window.

5

Physical affection is vital for men. Kiss him just because. Grab his hand while you’re driving or walking together. Put your arm around his shoulder. Snuggle up to him first. When we initiate affection, our men really feel wanted.

6

On a regular basis, tell him how grateful you are to have him in your life. Never take for granted that he already knows.

7

Send him an “I love you” text message. Let him know that you’re thinking of him when the two of you are apart.

8

Run a bubble bath for him when you know he has had a long, trying day.

9

Take an interest in his passion. Watch that ballgame with him. If bowling is his thing, tag along and try your best to rack up some strikes.

10

Go where he wants to go. Whether it’s a matter of restaurant, vacation, or sporting goods store, make his choice THE go-to choice.

11

Stand by your man. Support him in situations that come up with your family. Be on his side.

12

Even if it’s just in a conversation, express some passion about what matters to him. If you understand what he’s feeling, make sure he knows that he’s not alone.

13

In all of our 25 years together, my husband has given me plenty of flowers and balloons. One day it dawned on me. Maybe my husband would like flowers too. I stood in the Kroger floral department for at least fifteen minutes, trying to decide between vibrant pastel daisies and beautiful roses. When I arrived home with deep-red roses for him, the look of surprise on his face was priceless. Yeah, a few guys poked fun of him on Facebook for getting flowers from a girl, but it was definitely a hit for our memory book.

14 

Share your dreams with him and ask him about his. Work together to achieve the dreams and goals the two of you have.

15

Always remember to ask your husband, “Do you need me to get something for you? How can I help you? What can I do for you?”

Constant love, care, and consideration will go a long way in a marriage. When both people are always thinking about the other person, the union thrives, issues are promptly addressed, and each day is sweeter than the day before.

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You Really Do Deserve Me

You Really Do Deserve Me is available on Amazon now!

"You Really Do Deserve Me" explores just a few of the qualities of a Super Wife, some things we can all try to have more peace in our marriages, and little ways wives can support and complement their husbands. 

Dictionary.com defines complement this way: “something that completes or makes perfect.” That beautiful definition succinctly fits a Super wife to a T. 

A Super wife is queen of motivation in her home. Her grace, strength, insight, comfort, resolve during a storm, brilliance, and even her joy make up a very unique skill-set that any man would be blessed to have. A Super Wife faces every challenge with optimism and strives to handle day-to-day circumstances with grace, strength, and humor. 

This quick little read offers 52 affirmations and 6 Bonuses including: 

* How I Saved My Marriage 
* Who Told You No? 
* A Mother's Work 
* Room for What Inspires You 
* Beautiful Smile Girl and 
* A New Beginning 

Tondeleya Allen, author of "The Blessed Woman Endeavor," believes every wife has the power to complement her husband and inspire him to be a better man.

How I Saved My Marriage

Divorce is a difficult prospect.  Actually staring down the barrel of an impending divorce is terrifying.  So many thoughts plague your mind.  The uncertainty, the despair, and the pain can overtake you and leave you in a state of emotional paralysis.  “How did we get here?  Is this our only option? Once upon a time, we were really good.  We did love each other, right?  Yes, we still love each other.  Why can’t we make this work? This place though is just too hard and neither of us knows how to fix what’s wrong. I’m just tired of fighting.  I’m sick of trying.  I’m tired of being in pain.  I just want to start over. I need peace. Obviously, we weren’t meant to last forever.”

Early on in our marriage, before we even had our first child, we had taken one another through so much.  We married long before we should have.  Young and naïve, we had all the wrong ideas about how to make marriage work for both of us.  And any good ideas we may have had, we weren’t sure about how to properly implement those ideas.  After several crazy years, full of love, mistakes, struggle, and blame, our marriage was over.  We just didn’t like or trust each other much.  So, what’s the point of forcing it?  The divorce papers had been signed by me.  The only thing that was left was to mail them to my husband to get his signature.

I’m so glad that the Lord had other plans for us.  He touched our hearts and made us believe for just a minute (at the same time) that there was some way to salvage– to restore our marriage.  Over time, a great deal of time, He brought us back from the brink of divorce.  It was not easy. It was not overnight. There was no quick-fix. Getting back “on track” was probably one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done.   

All those years ago though, at just 24 years old, I knew it was over.  I knew that there was just no way to put the pieces back together.  No one alive could’ve told me that there was any hope for us.  No one could have told me that there were steps that we could take, if we were both willing to try and to remain dedicated to one another.  Sadly, there was no one around to encourage me, to speak blessings over my marriage, or to lead me to the Lord for guidance.

Well, with God’s grace, we made it through that storm.  I saved my marriage by believing that God could restore us, despite all the awful pain and trauma.  I saved my marriage by ignoring popular opinion that said, “Yeah, just let it go.  You've gone as far as you can. It wasn’t meant to be.”  I saved my marriage by asking, “Lord, what should I do now?”  I saved my marriage by having faith that God’s promises are true and that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. 

We have been tested by fire.  Today, we’re stronger than ever.  We hold on tighter to one another in the storms. Is it always easy?  No, but it’s worth it.  Are we perfect? No.  Is our marriage perfect?  Of course not.  We do, however, share deep love and respect for one another.  We enjoy laughing, talking, and being silly together. Now, we realize that every argument or disagreement isn’t fatal.  Now, I know how important it is to let love dictate my response to my husband and to any difficulty we face.  Lord, thank you for saving my marriage.

Despite the 50% US divorce rate, there are couples who have made it back from the brink of divorce.  There are other couples whose marriages have been saved.   If you're willing to try, there are steps to work toward reconciliation.  Below are a few interesting stories/articles that I hope will inspire anyone who believes that there is no way that their marriage can be saved. 

“How I Saved My Marriage” by Richard Paul Evans http://new.www.huffingtonpost.com/richard-paul-evans/how-i-saved-my-marriage_b_6958222.html

“The List That Saved My Marriage” by Becky Zerbe http://www.todayschristianwoman.com/articles/2008/september/list-that-saved-my-marriage.html

“7 Steps to Fix a Broken Marriage on the Brink of Divorce” by Dr. David B. Hawkins http://www.crosswalk.com/family/marriage/doctor-david/7-ways-to-save-a-marriage-on-the-brink-of-divorce-11604471.html

“Unexpected Ways That Only You Can Save Your Marriage “as told by Leigh Newman”

http://www.oprah.com/shiftyourlife/unexpected-ways-that-only-you-can-save-your-marriage

My book, The Blessed Woman Endeavor is available on Amazon.
My book, You Really Do Deserve Me is available on Amazon.

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Read an excerpt from "I Am Enough"

"You belong to the Lord.  His faithful hand rests on you.  Your portion of eternal love is set.  Always know your worth.  You are a complete, content and confident conqueror.   You’re a survivor.  The championship ring has already been won.  Your past trials are now victories under your belt.  His staff of beauty and favor remains intact regarding you.  In Christ, you have no fear.  It’s the enemy who should be somewhere afraid and trembling.  You know who you are and what belongs to you.  You can really start living when you know your worth in Christ.

Never a fan of the convincing game, you refuse to waste a minute trying to convert anyone into a believer.  You’ve discovered that fitting in neither works nor lasts.  The world is way too fickle.  You see yourself as the Lord sees you and the picture is amazing.  You refuse to let others ask you to take an emotional seat at the back of the bus.

The world screams, “Don’t love yourself.  Compare yourself.  Doubt yourself.   Subdue yourself.  Be someone else.  Just sit down and let someone else.”  The world wants you to feel that you need society’s stamp of approval.  The world wants you to buy into its standard of beauty.  The world wants you to beg to be loved.

I have some good news for you.  Your beauty is not everyone else’s beauty.  The Lord, a magnificent artist, must love variety.  Your uniqueness.  Your heart.  Your eyes.  Your smile.  Your ideas.  Your creativity.  What a gift you are to the world.  Romance, nurture and cherish yourself.  Go right ahead and love yourself.   When you love yourself just as you are, the right people will love you too."

5 Ways to Show Your Spouse Appreciation

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